In this modern world, it is easy to fall into the trap of believing that you lack these essential qualities – trust, confidence, and abundance. You often find yourself grieving about your insecurities, distrust, or perceived scarcity in your life. However, the idea that these qualities are ‘absent’ is fundamentally distorted. Trust is a fundamental human experience, deeply rooted in your psychology and social structures. You often think of trust as something you either have or do not have. However, you do trust and have confidence in something, but it may not always align with your preferences or expectations.
Sarah, a successful marketing executive, found herself in a turbulent period. Her career was thriving, but her personal life felt like it was in shambles. After a series of failed relationships, she concluded that she could no longer trust anyone. She felt a profound sense of betrayal and isolation, convinced that trust was an elusive quality beyond her reach. Despite her feelings of distrust in her personal relationships, Sarah displayed an extraordinary level of trust in other areas of her life. She trusted her skills, her team at work, and her ability to make sound business decisions. Sarah didn’t lack trust; she simply redirected it towards her career, where she felt more secure and in control.
Sarah’s story is not unique. Many people misinterpret the feeling of distrust in one area of life as a complete absence of trust. However, trust often shifts towards where you find stability or competence. For instance, people who struggle to trust others might place their trust in systems, routines, or even in negative beliefs about themselves or the world. Or in non-traditional ways, you may trust your instincts, routines, or even doubts more than you realize. Understanding this redirection helps you see that it is not about the absence of trust, but about recognizing where you place your trust. By identifying and addressing these areas, you can begin to reshape your understanding and experience of trust. For example, someone who distrusts others may place trust in their own independence and self-reliance. By acknowledging this form of trust, they can work on building trust in relationships while still valuing their independence.
Confidence, like trust, is often seen as something you either possess or lack. However, confidence is always present and it can be nurtured and transferred across different areas of your life. While Sarah struggled with confidence in her personal relationships, she exuded confidence in her professional life. She could walk into a boardroom and deliver a compelling presentation. Her colleagues admired her poise and self-assuredness. It was a testament to her capabilities and achievements. Despite feeling insecure in her personal life, Sarah’s confidence in her professional abilities was unwavering.
People can overlook the areas where they naturally exhibit confidence because they focus on where they feel deficient. Confidence is not always about bold, outward actions; it can also be about resilience, persistence, and the quiet assurance of your skills and knowledge. Sarah recognized her hidden forms of confidence which inspired her to take small steps towards building confidence in her personal relationships. She started by engaging in social activities where she felt comfortable, gradually expanding her comfort zone and building new connections.
The concept of abundance is also frequently misunderstood. People tend to view abundance as a state of having more than enough of everything they desire. When you do not achieve this ideal, you perceive a lack of abundance. However, abundance is not about material wealth or external success; it is a mindset that recognizes the richness of life in all its forms. Sarah’s perception of scarcity was primarily focused on her personal relationships. She felt she lacked meaningful connections and love. However, as she delved deeper into her life, she noticed abundance in other areas. She had a fulfilling career, supportive friends, and numerous opportunities for personal growth. The abundance of knowledge, creativity, opportunities, and connections are all integral parts of a fulfilled and abundant life.
The belief that you lack trust, confidence, or abundance is an illusion. They are always present, manifesting in ways you might not immediately recognize or prefer. Trust, confidence, and abundance are not elusive qualities to be sought after; they are inherent aspects of your life waiting to be discovered and embraced. Shift your perspective and acknowledge where you placed them and begin to appreciate their presence in your life. Leverage them in any area where you perceive lack and watch what happens!
