• Monday, June 24, 2024
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Girl of my dream

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I’ll be turning 56 in a few days and there’s a lot of pressure on me to get married. My aged mother is especially worried and is more concerned than everyone else.

She wants me to give her grandchildren before she transitions to the great beyond. She has even tried to matchmake me with other women but I was never interested in any of them. That’s because I already have a woman in my life, we’ve been together for about 21years and we have three kids together. I am in a very happy relationship and I don’t want to be with anyone else. But there’s a problem! How do I explain to everyone that I’ve been married for a long time and I also have grown up kids?

Now let me tell you how it happened. Alicia is the girl of my dream. We first met when I was a teenager. It first started out as a dream. You see, for a very long time, whenever I slept, I’d always find myself in a strange place with strange people. It didn’t matter the time of day, as long as I was sleeping, this would always happen.

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I told my parents about it and they said it was nothing, “I was probably reliving the things that happened to me during the day”. This was their assumption. These dreams continued for a very long time until I became used to them. It was a part of my life.

It was in one of such dreams that I met and fell in love with Alicia. I thought it was just a teenager crush that would eventually fade away but that wasn’t the case. We became an item and everyone in dream land affirmed that Alicia and I were meant for each other.

I struggled with having a family in real life because I couldn’t bring Alicia here. I know she’s the only woman for me and I had to wrestle with myself to take a decision. It was either I get married in real life and be miserable for the rest of my life or get married to the love of my life and live happily ever after. It was a tough decision but I had to do the right thing for myself. So 21years ago, I took the bold step and exchanged marriage vows with the only woman I have ever loved.

I feel so sad that I cannot bring my dream family into real life. I will be a very happy man and I can give anything for this happen. Unfortunately, I do not have the powers or the means to do this so I’ll have to disappoint my mom on this one.

There’s no way anyone is ever going to understand or believe me if I tell them about other my life in dream land. There’s also nothing under the sun that will make me take a wife in real life because I am not a polygamist and I know being married to another woman will not be good for my peace of mind and mental health. I love my mother and I want her to be happy. I have to find a way out of this complex situation. My mother needs to know the truth. How do I go about this? Somebody help me please.