Playing Your ‘CARDS’ right
As the globe moves away from the norm, the new start to take precedence, however in a society that is driven more by culture than new norms, conflicts arise out of this transition. It becomes imperative to learn how to navigate this transition for one’s success and growth. As the new gradually becomes normal, the gap closes to form an innovative and vibrant society for everyone.
The acronym CARDS refer to managing your Composure and ensuring you keep the right kind of Attitude in your sphere of influence, this first two help you manage your Relationships and allows you provide valuable advice exhibiting a Drive without prejudice or judgment which ultimately produces a Solutions minded individual and society (CARDS).
Let’s break it down:
COMPOSURE: Emotional intelligence is really all about managing yourself well enough that managing others become easier. Maintaining a calm composure in the face of aggressive or hostile environments is key to successfully navigating conflicts and coming out on top. A calm composure also acts as a deterrent to bad behaviour. I always use the Suzy Welch 10-10-10 method to evaluate situations and persons. Will this matter in 10 minutes, seconds, hours, weeks, etc? If it doesn’t, chuck it in the rubbish bin and walk on by! Be mindful of your reactions to situations and learn to manage your emotions better.
ATTITUDE: Learn to maintain a positive attitude at work or anywhere you find yourself. Surround yourself with things that make you happy. Create a personal space where you can go and recharge. I create my space wherever I go, my space has music, journals, colour pens, scented candles, candies (sweets), and a novel. Stay away from negative situations as much as you can. If caught in one, diffuse with a joke, calm but stern response, or just walk away. Have an anchor song that keeps you steady and sure; mine is Titanium by Sia, most people like spiritual music or jazz, find your beat and stick to it. Most of all, always wear a smile, it helps both you and the person you are with and introduces cheer into the environment.
RELATIONSHIPS: Create the right and strategic relationships around you. In an office, know who the influencers and powerbrokers are. It has been said that often a person’s network is their net worth. You spend at least 8 hours a day at your workplace, as much as it is possible to try and have a good working relationship with everyone. Don’t be a people pleaser, be your authentic self and that means working on the above two points (Composure and Attitude) – if you have a calm but amiable composure, you will be approachable and this helps in building strong relationships within your sphere of influence. Build relationships with respect, faithfulness, and loyalty. These are very scarce currencies. Love People, Trust God- my motto!
DRIVE: Be driven. Never give the excuse you can’t. Everything is possible! Never stop learning. Read up on new things. Volunteer on new projects, start something new. Even if things seem to be moving slow, provide energy and innovative ideas. Never say ‘oh they don’t appreciate all my hard work” – still work hard, release all that creative energy, when you bottle all that up, it can become negative or disruptive in a bad way. Be driven!
SOLUTION MINDED: In a world that has become very critical, be the one in the room with light, look for the solutions, look for the way out of a problem. Don’t join the crowd of naysayers. Be positive that this too can be worked out and go for it. Approach every problem with a solution and not a criticism. Be constructive if you want to criticise, start with the positive parts of the project, then move to what isn’t working, and finally move to your suggestions and offer help.
I do hope that these can help you start to play your CARDS right. Remember it will become a habit as you practise this daily. Best of luck at this! Next time we will be looking at GROWTH in the workplace.
Written by Oge Funlola Modie, a published author, writer, and speaker. She is the Editor and writer of GetFearlessly AunthenticTM Newsletter, a personal leadership newsletter that chronicles her life as a professional. She is involved in causes for women, young people, and the vulnerable. She loves to read comics, watch comedy flicks, listen to music, and play golf. Shares her love threefold- Love for God, Love for People, Love for Country. www.ogemodie.com