A top Lagos designer told me recently about the quiet wars Asoebi now ignites in Nigerian families.
Who gets the premium fabric?
Who gets the “downgraded” one?
Why are wives placed in one colour and married daughters in another?
Why is one branch of the family excluded entirely?
She sighed and said,
“Asoebi is no longer a culture. It’s now commerce, class, and politics.”
She’s right.
And the cost—financial, social, and psychological—is rising faster than most care to admit.
The joy of belonging
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