Last week we started the first phase of this talk with the mail sent to me by a housewife whose husband’s ‘’chronic-fraustrating’ lack of performance sexually over the years is tearing their marriage apart. She is a good woman so she decided to seek help to save her marriage. African Women are always the ones to work things out when romance and marriage goes sour…pouque? Pouqueeee???
This issue of West African Men seeing pot belly as a wealth projection has killed a lot of men silently and prematurely. How can you say that years of accumulation of dirt and rubbish that should be excreted daily and eliminated being stored in your stomach is a sign of good living and wealth? Are you listening to yourself at all? C’mom guys..let us get real here…..you guys keep parading your pot belly but when you need a good woman with good body you go for a slim babe huh? Those of you already with wifey that develops big tummy due to child birth seeks solace outside with all the pretty chics at your end.
This is outrageous and a high level of ignorance if you ask me. Pot belly a sign of good healthy living? Give =me-a –dammn –good break here!!!
If only African women are free with their expressing their sexual feelings outside, you will hear certain ugly stories about pot belly men that will make you as a woman not to say-‘’hello’’ to any man with protruding stomach.
Listen guys, once your waiste line prevents you from breathing normally, climbing the stairs, wearing your costly designers suit/pantss comfortably and satisfying madam sexuallly when she wants, you are sick. Read my li;ps, you are sick …if you like accept this or reject it..hate me if you like but i am telling you the truth and also trying to save your life which you love so much.
Madam, on your own side….most of you wives hardly know what to feed your husband in the name of food and drinks at home. Women who understand healthy eating will not have problems creating and preparing sumptous foods without the man knowing he is on diet. Oh.. do not even bring in the word-‘’diet’’ for our men or else you lose out totally. A Typical Nigerian man wants to eat anything he feels like, drinks alcohol as much as he wants and if you dare caution him as a wife, you are in trouble. So the catch here is to secretly plan a healthy diet for your hubby without him knowing he is actually on diet. How? That you and i know I cannot talk about here in general terms because each human being has a different body metabolism and what works for Mr A, might not work for Mr B/C. So this has to be on a private consultation that suits your man’ss eating habit and general lifestyle. In my entire 10 plus years of being a life coach and body image coach, men are the worst people who can keep to a steady weightloss regimen so this is not child’s play here.
You can gte them register at a gym for sometime but when it comes to planning what they eat, you must work hand in hand with the wife at home who will be preparing what he eats daily.
C’mon guys, many…I mean many Nigerian wives are in this dilenma of putting up with a husband with pot belly but they keep quiet because every woman you see wants to pretend her marriage is perfecto…absolutely perfecto….but they cry every night looking for solution. If only such men with such weight problems also think like their wives and seek help. Rather they always go for other women who pretend to love them . Listen married- pot –belly- men, no woman…I mean no woman young or old in this country Nigeria enjoys making love with a pot belly man. They pretend because they are getting other benefits from you but at your back, they loathe spending time with you. Sorry…i must expose all these ruts so that those who want a since honest living can adjust their lifestyle and enjoy life before they die. Honestly i personally will prefer to remain single for life than to live with a man that loathes me secretly but pretends to love me in the open. This is what women do to survive in this harsh economic conditions of Nigeria so if you a man that values his personality and self image, think twice with all the variety of women you have been having rendevous over the years. Do they actually give a shit about you in the real sense or do they make fun of you with girl friends when they meet for girls gists? Oh we girls do talk …sure we do ..and believe me most times they are not so pleasant talks about men. Sorry girls!!! I think its pretty mean and mischievious pretending to like someone when actually his body structure and crude manners irritates you. Money comes and goes…but if you really care for someone genuinely, good luck and long life follows you everywhere you go. Be a lady and go for men that makes you want to laugh…lay your heads down and just laugh!!! This cost nothing! Absoultely NADAA!!
Now as i round up this talk for this week, if you are a man with pot belly, stop relying on stimulants because they will create ill health that will lead you to your untimely death. Your wife knows you have this problem so sit down with her and plan a remedy. Women are always very understanding on such sensitive matters …oh sure they are. Infact they will never tell anyone what they suffer with their husband in the bedroom but they get pissed when you neglect the problem and keep running after young babes. The women that expose such men’s problem is the girl friend and mistress but the wife will rather seek a professional help just like the woman that sent the SOS mail to me to save her marriage. When you negelct your wife and keep chasing teenagers thinking your peoblem will be solved. To your wife, this is pure selfishness. She is protecting you but your own for her is to abandon her and look else where so this is where the problem comes and the marriage develops cracks that can eventually crumble totally.
Like I said last week, pot belly does not just hinders your sexual performance, it creates other deadly health matters that kills silently. Please consult your doctors if you disagree.. They will give their honest advice but it is left for you to look for help to lose weight. You can have a personalised/confidential planned weightloss program suitable for your life style. Send in your questions/reactions to – [email protected]. Talk to jaclyn on – 07051920493.
JACLYN IWU
