Aminat went to university in the UK in September 2021, and during the Christmas season, she began to feel depressed as this was the first time, she was spending Christmas away from her family. She shared her dilemma with her mother and her mother advised her to go and spend Christmas with her friends and their family as they had no relatives in the UK. Aminat did this and she enjoyed the Christmas season. It was not the same as spending time with her family, but it helped her not feel as sad as she did before, and she had less time to dwell on depressive thoughts.
The festive season is usually a time of jubilation and celebration, but it can be very overwhelming and can take a toll on your personal health. For some people, the festive season can be depressing especially if they are spending Christmas away from their family due to distance or if they are celebrating Christmas without a loved one who just died.
The festive season can also bring with it a hefty to do list. The extra time needed for shopping, wrapping presents and a busy social calendar can be a lot to juggle. However, there are a few ways to maintain a good personal health during the festive season.
WAYS TO MAINTAIN WELLNESS IN THE FESTIVE SEASON
1. Plan ahead
Whether it’s setting budgets, delegating tasks or being selective about which social events to attend, be honest with yourself and others about what you want to achieve and what’s achievable. Knowing what you’re committing to and what to expect will relieve worry and stress.
2. Be merry in moderation
To help ensure you enjoy the party season, know your limits and plan wisely. Remember, less can be more so you don’t waste valuable energy or overindulge in the excesses of Christmas! Prioritise your invitations rather than over committing, so you’re able to really enjoy positive experiences and you will not feel burnt out.
3. Try to look on the bright side
Things not quite going to plan? Not happy with a gift? Try not to dwell on what you don’t have. Being thankful for what you do have will also mean you’re able to handle any family tensions much more easily. Don’t forget this also includes being kind to yourself.
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4. Connect with others
Reaching out to others can help to manage any loneliness or sadness that creeps in around Christmas.
5. Rest when you can
Try to build in time for yourself amongst the festivities. This will help you maintain a healthy balance for mind and body. Take regular breaks and allow time for exercise, meditation, or whatever it is that works for you.
DEALING WITH FEELINGS OF LONELINESS
There are many reasons for feelings of loneliness at Christmas – not having friends or family around, living away from home for the first time, language or cultural barriers, the list goes on.
Here are a few things you can do to help you deal with the feeling of loneliness
1. Keep busy
Carry on doing things you enjoy, to help lift your mood. And while normal routines may take a break during the holidays, it’s important to have structure in your daily schedule to ensure as much certainty as possible.
2. Connect with others
This might feel like an effort but having a conversation with someone each day can help you feel better (and you might even make someone else’s day too!). It’s important to remember that lonely people don’t usually reach out to do this, so we should all remember to offer this connection.
3. Try volunteering
Volunteering can be a great way to connect. It can also help you feel worthwhile and valued through your contribution. But if volunteering isn’t for you, there are plenty of ways to make new connections – join a club, organization or online community for your special interest.
4. Keep moving
Physical activity can help to boost energy levels and avoid rumination (constant or repetitive thoughts about something). Why not try a walk in a park or at the beach? You’ll get some fresh air, boost your endorphins, and maybe meet some new people on your way.
5. Get help when you need it
Most importantly, remember there’s a whole lot of support out there. So don’t be afraid to reach out for help if you need it
WAYS TO AVOID DEPRESSION THIS HOLIDAY USING THE ACRONYM,
H.O.L.I.D.A.Y
1. Have non-alcoholic ways of celebrating this period
2. Observe quality sleep, at least 7-9hrs daily
3. Learn to eat healthy meals as against feasting on junk food and exercise 30-45mins daily doing brisk walk
4. Imbibe the culture of meditating, praying and showing gratitude.
5. Do stay connected with family and friends
6. Acknowledge saying No. You don’t have to attend all gatherings during this festive period.
7. You matter. Learn to check in on yourself and express your emotional struggles if and when you need to.
