Meet Jennifer. She grew up in a home filled with criticism and rejection, leaving her with a fragile sense of self-worth. Although she loved God and was active in church, her relationship with Him lacked depth. She prayed, read her Bible, and served faithfully, but her identity was rooted in past wounds, external achievements, and others’ opinions.
Jennifer felt empty. She longed for validation and love, turning to romantic relationships to fill the void. She understood the “perfect” man: someone morally upright with a surface-level faith. But while she searched for these qualities in a partner, her relationship with God remained shallow, making it difficult to discern her true character.
Eventually, she met someone who seemed to meet all her criteria. He was affectionate and supportive and gave her the attention she craved. Convinced he was the answer to her prayers, Jennifer ignored the subtle red flags.
Two weeks into their marriage, reality hit. Her husband showed no interest in spiritual growth. One day, he confessed, “I’m not spiritual, and I never claimed to be.” Jennifer was heartbroken. She had married someone with no real connection to God, and it showed in his actions—dishonesty, flirtation, and a disregard for accountability. Every day, she asked, “How did I miss this?”
Lessons for You as a Single Woman
Jennifer’s story is a wake-up call. Too often, singles rush into relationships based on surface-level qualities, only to face heartbreak when deeper issues emerge. Here are key lessons to avoid that mistake:
1. Prioritise Your Relationship with God
Before seeking a partner, focus on deepening your connection with God. A strong spiritual foundation will help you make wiser decisions and discern character beyond appearances.
2. Look Beyond the Surface
Don’t be swayed by charm, good manners, or superficial displays of faith. True character reveals itself through consistent actions, integrity, and spiritual growth.
3. Watch for Red Flags
Pay attention to signs of immaturity or a lack of accountability. If someone dismisses the importance of spiritual alignment or shows no desire to grow in their faith, reconsider.
4. Don’t Compromise on Spiritual Alignment
Marriage is a partnership that requires unity in values and purpose. Building a strong and lasting relationship will be challenging without a shared commitment to God.
It’s Not Too Late
If Jennifer’s story resonates with you, know it’s never too late to change course. Whether single, engaged, or married, there’s hope for growth and transformation.
• If you’re preparing for marriage, consider joining a premarital class to align your spiritual goals.
• If you’re already married and struggling, seek guidance and support. Healing and restoration are possible.
Marriage is one of life’s most important decisions. Take the time to build a strong foundation in God and choose a partner who shares your values. You deserve a relationship that thrives and honors God’s purpose for your life.
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