What real mothers are worth…happy ‘Mothers Day?’

Within the next one month, beginning from this week, churches across the world will be marking their 2014 ‘Mothers’ Day’ with fanfare and lots of celebrations. Now, who are the real mothers? Not because they have been blessed with children, but what their role are in supporting their family both as financial managers and planners. The true worth of a ‘mother’ therefore brings out the real essence of the celebration.

While “This Is Money” thinks that mothers should be celebrated, it also believes that there are specific roles that they should play in the family. Here are the thoughts of an expert on the issue:

“The issue of financial management in the home is very critical in performing our role as mothers and women. We stand at a very important position in managing resources that come into our homes, realising that as managers from creation we must preserve the family’s resources, rather than giving in to being wasteful.”

Finance

Firstly, any woman that does not contribute to the income of the home no matter how little it is, is not helping to build a happy family. The era when the woman sits down and rely on her husband alone to provide everything is gone because the economic situation no longer accommodates idleness or laziness.

2 Thessalonians 3:10 – “He who does not work must not eat.”

We as mothers and women in the home must strive to support our families financially, by ensuring that we earn income no matter how little.

Secondly, we must not live above our family status, realising that if we fail to save for tomorrow the family will suffer for it. We must therefore encourage our husbands to invest rather than want him to spend money on luxuries that will not be there to help us tomorrow. If you are one of those who prefer clothing, clothing, clothing; jewellery, jewellery and jewellery rather than investment, bear in mind that you are eating your cake and you may not have it tomorrow.

Thirdly, while it will be our desire to cook good food and provide other needs for our families, it is critical that we do not allow issues like money for feeding or other upkeeps cause misunderstanding between us and our husband. Rather than quarrel over such things, let’s add our money or when we don’t have, let’s judiciously manage what is available.

Fourthly, it is not good to know a woman for credit purchases. No husband feels happy that his wife piles up debts for him particularly when such act can be avoided or when there could have been an alternative. Avoid debts as much as you can.

Fifthly, be open-hearted to your family and this goes to increase your husbands love for you. Tell him the truth about your finances; let him know what you buy outside; for instance clothes or jewelries. When you do not carry him along on these, you are creating room for suspicion and it can only be dangerous for the marriage.

Sixthly, must you send money to your parents. It is vital you let your husband know about it before you do so, otherwise it could spell doom for the marriage.

Seventhly, do not be an obstacle to your husband assisting others because the secret of wealth is in giving and this you should encourage to sustain the family wealth and riches.

Modestus Anaesoronye