Why are you still answering to your ex-husband’s name?
A woman was asked this recently. Not gently. The question carried its own verdict, the way these questions often do, and she felt it land exactly as intended.
She is newly divorced, accomplished, and clear-eyed. And like many women in her position, she has discovered that the end of a marriage does not end the questions. It simply changes them. She looked at me and said, with the exhaustion of someone who has been quietly counting, 'I gave up my father’s name when I m
